Lonely Holidays

Lonely Holidays

Loneliness is a particularly painful feeling during the winter holidays. Though we are often surrounded by family, we may still feel disconnected or alone. If we have lost loved ones, the grief can intensify around the holidays. A self-compassion break is a practice...
A Holiday Season with Lots of Presence

A Holiday Season with Lots of Presence

During the winter holidays we see a lot of messaging about everything being merry and bright. There is a cultural focus on gratitude and strong pressure to spend time with family. For many of us, though, the holidays also bring extra stress, grief, and pain. Though we...
Compassion Practices for Caregivers

Compassion Practices for Caregivers

Did you know that our brains are evolved to feel what other people are feeling in our own body? Our mirror neurons can feel our child’s anxiety or our partner’s frustration. If we work in a helping profession or have multiple caregiving roles, we are especially...
The Second Arrow

The Second Arrow

Often when I feel hurt, overwhelmed or frustrated, I have a second set of feelings that are judgmental of the first set. I notice myself feeling resentful about all the caretaking I’m doing and then I feel guilty for not counting my blessings. I notice feeling hurt...
A backpack full of Self-Compassion

A backpack full of Self-Compassion

It’s back to school time. We all have long lists of things our kids need as they return to the classroom, and one thing we hope they have plenty of is self-compassion. Starting school can be an emotionally difficult time for our kids. They are adjusting to new...
Have you tried Turtling?

Have you tried Turtling?

Recently I received a card with a sparkly turtle on the front and I felt so seen! You see, I am a sparkly turtle; Turtle-ing is the way I navigate the world. I’m curious and love learning and experiencing new things but I’m also cautious and fearful about new...